Rebellious TeeNageR...

Teenagers are in the stage of development called adolescence, and are, therefore, referred to as adolescents also. Adolescence is generally considered a time of disorders. Rebelliousness is a typical characteristic of teenagers in general. Indeed the terms ‘adolescent instability’ is commonly used, as being the case. There are many children brought up sanely in earlier childhood that pass through adolescence healthily and happily. Rebelliousness is part of the disorders in adolescence. Parents are naturally worried when they find that is beyond them to control the behavior of their teenage son or daughter. The worried parents certainly require good counseling. In the absence of proper counseling, they will make the situation worse, and their son or daughter will become all the more rebellious. The first thing that I would tell the worried parents is the fact that adolescence is a time when disorders are more liable to happen then in earlier years and that the reasons for this are both physiological and physiological. Next I would tell to the parents the rapid changes taking places in the physiological organism in adolescence, which may give rise to endocrine lack of balance and produce what we may justifiably call ‘temperamental instability’ for temperament is the influence of the physiological organism upon the mental and emotional life.
Then, I would deal with the psychological reasons. first of all, the parents would be told about of the adolescent. His excessive idealism will result in kind of disillusionment in him, later in the wake of non-fulfillment of some of the ideals on which he sets his heart. Next, I would draw the parents attention to yet another reason for adolescent instability which consists in the fact that the basic impulses, such as aggressiveness and sex, develop so fast that they get beyond the adolescent’s control’s would then told to them the various factors which may cause lack of control. The first is the psychological instability already mentioned. The second and more obvious is that the youth has never learnt self discipline. Sometimes this is because he is a spoilt child and has never been disciplined, or because the parents have shown him no example of self control. People say ,’a little more discipline in childhood might have done him good’ and sometimes they are right.
However, it must not be assumed that lack of discipline is the only cause of disorders in adolescence. it is sometimes the very reverse for the same rebelliousness may occur because the child has been too rigidly disciplined, so that when he attains more freedom he revolts and kicks over the traces. Further, I would tell the parents the psychological truth that complexes formed in early childhood and latent since then are apt to the revived in adolescence and that this reason for rebelliousness. They would also be told that a great deal of disturbance in adolescence comes from conditions which are preventable, such as lack of outlets for natural energy, for it is only natural when natural urges are frustrated, they take unnatural forms.The parents would be told that they should realize that the adolescent is growing up to greater independence. He wants to go his own way, make his own decisions, and order his own life . if the parents try to keep a hold on him and interfere with his normal development by laying down the law, he will naturally resent it and kick over the traces. What they should, therefore, do in adolescence is to prepare the teenager to grow up and to be independent. Adequate advice during this period is necessary, but the adolescent is reluctant to take his parents into his confidence and to seek their advice. Therefore, the parents should hand over the teenager to someone in whom he has confidence.